BFT stands for 'Brothers Fight Together' because that's what we do here.

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I started BFT following my friend’s brothers’ suicide & witnessing how it destroyed her entire family & all of his closest friends.  Broken doesn't even come close & the shock waves could be felt everywhere.  This man was funny, charming, handsome, caring, a great father and was always the life of the party.  But, inside he was broken, inside he was screaming in pain & no one knew.  That's when I found out how little help for struggling adult males there is out there.  A lot of the websites were really difficult to navigate and I was calm when looking! Not desperate as most are when searching for help. The worst part though were the help lines. They were part time & the most ridiculous times of day.  Mental health doesn't work like that, you can't schedule in a breakdown when it suits!  So, I set up a Facebook group in the hopes that it would give some men a place to get support. By day 12, there were over 300 members, men sending amazing messages of support to total strangers & I'd had many a text conversation in the small hours of the morning .  The only problem was that Facebook kept being Facebook & removing things so we needed a new platform.  I'd have to build a chat room.  Shit!  But if it stopped just one more man from taking his own life, it would have been worth it.

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Here, we support each other through whatever crisis you might be struggling with.  Nothing is off limits, bad language isn't an issue but the first hint of trolling, bullying or threatening behaviour & you'll be out the door.  I would also urge you to be careful about using people's real names on here, especially exes and children.  I understand the frustration, the 'wanting the world to know', but try not to let that get the better of you, the last thing you need is a knock on the door from the old bill.  Besides hate is NOT what this site is about.  This is a place of support for real, everyday men like you so that you know you are not alone.

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Be anonymous or make a real-name member profile, it's completely up to you, just keep it 100% real.  The other members will be here to stand right by your side & support you.  They will talk to you, listen to you & share tips that have (and still do)  help them deal with the struggles that men have felt they should stay silent about for far too long. 

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It's time to stand up against the stigma that has resulted in 3 out of 4 suicides being men under the 45.

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Brothers Fight Together!